• O P E N

    When the earth was void and without form, the One True God had you on His mind. He chose you like a fine piece of material before He formed you in the womb.

    You were spoken for.

    Hence, He tailored you individually with character, talents, personality, and spiritual gifts, to His specific personal requirements to be a prophet, a mouthpiece to the world around you. You were made for His glory and put on display like a finely patterned suit that hangs in the windows of Savile Row in London.

    You're welcome to come inside.

    Step beyond the showroom, past the mirrors and through the doors of the workroom. See Jehovah, the Master Craftsman, as He finishes His latest creation:
    eliashib rafford.
    Maybe you'll get a glimpse of what He has in store for you.

Happy Birthday, Kermit!

 Big Man’s special day, 2013. May our Father grant you many more!
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YOU LITTLE LAZY

I&#8217;m finding that the hardest thing about children is the constant disciplining.  I mean CONSTANT.  You know?  May I have just one day where you aren&#8217;t doing something that needs correction, or guidance, or remembrance of a better way of doing it, or requires a brief lecture?<br /><br /><br />
Stop giving me that look.  You know where I&#8217;m coming from.  Right?  You do, right?<br /><br /><br />
Let me assure you that I am praying against my inclination toward all things perfect.  I just require a few things to make a tolerable roommate situation.<br /><br /><br />
-BEDROOM UPKEEP: I just want little man to keep his room at a level of clean that may not necessarily win any beautification awards, but also doesn&#8217;t require FEMA workers&#8217; assistance to navigate through it when I&#8217;m trying to put away laundry.  <br /><br /><br />
-DAILY GROOMING: Take a bath!  Take a shower!  Brush your teeth! Egads, man!  I&#8217;d like not to be accosted by a smell that teeters between a turd with burnt hair and Big Foot&#8217;s private when I&#8217;m reading his bedtime story. <br /><br /><br />
-ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE: Okay, I get that he won&#8217;t understand probably until he&#8217;s 16 or so (maybe later) what privileges and freedoms he enjoys here, but that doesn&#8217;t mean he gets to stomp around when asked to do the dishes after I burdened over the stove making the best pancakes I&#8217;ve made to date because I know he likes pancakes.<br /><br /><br />
Now, to the aforementioned point, will I direct the remainder of this post.  <br /><br /><br />
I need the Holy Spirit&#8217;s refining.  Its compassion and guidance.  How did I handle little bit&#8217;s blatant show of disapproval?  Not very well.  The Bible suggests we can get angry, but don&#8217;t sin because of it.  So, because he peeved me a little doesn&#8217;t excuse me saying, &#8220;Drop, you little lazy motherphuhker!"  *gasps*<br /><br /><br />
I KNOW!  It was out of my mouth before my brain even registered that it was a choice to say.  Which brings out another point: How can a fountain produce both fresh water and salt water? <br /><br /><br />
It&#8217;s getting real over here!  The Bible is showing its validity full force and I know that I need some help or both of us will be, what?  Lost.  And trust me, that&#8217;s not the kind of game I&#8217;m trying to play.  <br /><br /><br />
{singing} Holy Spirit come and fill this place&#8230;
I’m finding that the hardest thing about children is the constant disciplining.  I mean CONSTANT.  You know?  May I have just one day where you aren’t doing something that needs correction, or guidance, or remembrance of a better way of doing it, or requires a brief lecture?Stop giving me that look.  You know where I’m coming from.  Right?  You do, right?Let me assure you that I am praying against my inclination toward all things perfect.  I just require a few things to make a tolerable roommate situation.

-BEDROOM UPKEEP: I just want little man to keep his room at a level of clean that may not necessarily win any beautification awards, but also doesn’t require FEMA workers’ assistance to navigate through it when I’m trying to put away laundry.

-DAILY GROOMING: Take a bath!  Take a shower!  Brush your teeth! Egads, man!  I’d like not to be accosted by a smell that teeters between a turd with burnt hair and Big Foot’s private when I’m reading his bedtime story.

-ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE: Okay, I get that he won’t understand probably until he’s 16 or so (maybe later) what privileges and freedoms he enjoys here, but that doesn’t mean he gets to stomp around when asked to do the dishes after I burdened over the stove making the best pancakes I’ve made to date because I know he likes pancakes.

Now, to the aforementioned point, will I direct the remainder of this post.

I need the Holy Spirit’s refining.  Its compassion and guidance.  How did I handle little bit’s blatant show of disapproval?  Not very well.  The Bible suggests we can get angry, but don’t sin because of it.  So, because he peeved me a little doesn’t excuse me saying, “Drop, you little lazy motherphuhker!”  *gasps*

I KNOW!  It was out of my mouth before my brain even registered that it was a choice to say.  Which brings out another point: How can a fountain produce both fresh water and salt water?

It’s getting real over here!  The Bible is showing its validity full force and I know that I need some help or both of us will be, what?  Lost.  And trust me, that’s not the kind of game I’m trying to play.

{singing} Holy Spirit come and fill this place…

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HAPPY INDEPENDENCE DAY!

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Screw Purpose

Yes.  Screw Purpose!

No, I’m not saying you shouldn’t have a purpose.  I’m saying, “Screw it!”  Stop making it your freaking day in, day out focus.  You’re off base totally if it is.

Purpose is not what God asked us to seek for, to focus on, to strive for.  No where did He say that the secret of success was purpose, that the answer to Life’s question is purpose, that at the end of your “a-ha moment” is purpose.  So, then, why are we on a quest for a purpose driven life?

I mean, even older folks are torn up about not knowing their purpose in life.  Christians!  Believers in the Most High God distraught because they don’t know their purpose.  What in the hell?

Your purpose is to live folks!  For God’s sake listen to what He says.  Live your freaking life to the best of your ability while abiding in, trusting in, adhering to Him, the Author and Finisher of your faith.  That’s your doggone purpose!

But, Ray, that’s too simple.

What do you mean?  It’s too simple?  What’s simple about ignoring the status quo of the world’s mantras?  What’s simple about saying, “Screw Purpose!  I just want to live for God!”

This is what I think.  Here is where my rant is coming from or going or whatever!

We’re so focused on having a purpose in life that we are missing our lives.  For some of us, we aren’t even living.  Yep, it’s true though, right?

Today, I had a visit from Momma Love.  She’s my church mom, if you will.  Anywho, she was sharing with me that she’s been praying about her purpose.  She wanted to go back to school but wasn’t sure of what her talents were or what God wanted her to do.  Now, Momma Love is 63 years old, Praise God!  So, she’s already blessed for making it to that age, but to be feeling bad because she didn’t know her purpose.  Pfffbt…  You know I got pissed.

We were checking her email and when she went on her rant I promptly closed the laptop and looked her dead in the eyes.

“That’s this generation’s problem,” I began.

“What’s our problem, baby?” Momma Love giggled.

“We’re too focused on purpose, Momma Love.  You’re running around trying to figure out what God wants you to do when you’re already doing it.  He’s already answered numerous prayers from you.  Who is helping to start yet another church?  Who is an elder yet again at another start-up congregation?  Who, yet again, is in the Pastor’s main council giving advice and helping to lead the way?  You are!  You have a purpose.  You’re living your purpose and you’re missing it because you’re looking for it.  That’s not what God asked you to do!  He said seek first the Kingdom and His righteousness.  He said that HE HAS a purpose for you, a purpose that He knew before you were even formed in the womb.  So live!  Momma Love, you are a blessing to a number of people, too.  All that time you said God is calling you aside to study and pray in the mornings, afternoons, and nights is to build you up, to fill you to overflowing so that you can give without going into your cup.  It’s to keep you fortified and full to give a word in the right season.  Momma Love, live your life like Abraham, like Joseph, like Ezra and Nehemiah, like the disciples and wait for God to tap you on the shoulder and say, ‘Hey, I want you to do something for me.”

That was, of course, the Cliffs Notes’ version of my soapbox sermon.  I mean, I tried to sum it all up at the beginning: Screw Purpose!  God has something way better than that for you.  Live your life.  When He’s ready, He knows how to get your attention to do what He wants.

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Does That Make Me Crazy

Right now, as we’re speaking, i’m sitting on the steps of one of the churches downtown, probably about a skip from my buddy’s bar and a step away from my car. I’m not ready to go home although it’s late.

As i walked to my car i told God that i want to go somewhere and hide away. Just disappear like a hermit, holed up somewhere studying the Bible, you know, Doug Batchelor style. But then, i was honest and said i just want to run away! That’s when i sat down. I want to cry so badly right now that i don’t know where to start, what emotional prick i need to get the waters flowing.

DOES THAT MAKE ME CRAZY

Huh? Back up? Oh, you need clarity as to why i am downtown around midnight in the first place. I see.Well, after my guests went to bed after watching The Matrix, i was still wide awake, haunted by the conversation my nephew and i had Sunday evening. Only one of my boys came to mind that i could talk things out with. I was in my head to much to even decipher anything God may have said, plus i needed a human male to chop things up with, you know. Anyways, i called my boy and he was at karaoke at one of my other boys’ spot, and he invited me to come out. So i did. It was nice to be lost in the mix of adults. No one needing me for anything. I was…anonymous, just another wallflower listening to one out of five patrons butcher their song of choice. I knew i’d had my fill when this one lady straight served Gnarles Barkley’s Crazy on a platter, garnished and sliced. She did the damn thing and i left with a smile on my face, one hand in my pocket, and the other one was helping me sign to my boy that i’d talk to him later.

I haven’t told you that my nephew and i had our first chat about his absent dad. “Ray,” he started, “i wonder why my dad never comes to visit me.” He clutched the two boxes of movie theatre microwave popcorn he’d just purchased as he sat in the passenger seat pondering the reality of things.
“What do you think is the reason?” i asked.
“Maybe he’s too busy to come,” he answered as he peered ahead through the windshield.
“Anything else?” I purely asked out of curiosity, wondering, hoping that he hadn’t reached The Point.
“Maybe he doesn’t want to visit me,” he said.
“What if that’s the reason?”
“Then i’d be sad,” he said.
“Why would you be sad?”
He continued to look straight ahead and he pulled the popcorn closer to him. “I’d be sad because i’d think that means he doesn’t care about me.” He glanced at me and then back at the intersection’s stalled traffic. I rubbed his head when we stopped at the light hoping he couldn’t sense the lump in my throat and the turmoil my stomach was going through. Stay focused, Ray. Stay in the moment. He needs you, is what i told myself. His words are haunting me! How can an 8 year old articulate so well his pain and the cause? Dammit!

*side note* i love that in 2013 i can sit almost literally in the middle of nowhere and talk to you. *side note*

So, that convo and my already growing disgust with other aspects of my life have me just a little twisted for now. Don’t worry. I’ll be fine. I always mull over things with God.
I still need to cry.
stay tailored…

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My lil schnookums!

My lil schnookums!
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  • BESPOKE TAILORING IS…

    -bespoke-
    custom or custom-made, made to order; a form of the verb bespeak which means to ask for in advance, to reserve beforehand, to foretell

    -tailoring-
    to fashion or adapt to a particular taste, purpose, need, etc.

    Bespoke Tailoring is simply having total control over the fabric of, the lining of, the fit of, the color of, the cut of, the pattern of, the details of a particular suit, or other article of men's clothing

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  • THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW:

    -character-
    the real you!

    -temperament-
    the combination of inborn traits - from mom & dad, even grandparents - that subconsciously affect behavior

    -personality-
    the outward expression of an individual

    -talent-
    a special natural ability or aptitude

    -spiritual gift-
    gifts that are bestowed on Christians, individually, to strengthen the Church [body of believers locally & globally]

  • THE FOUR TEMPERAMENTS

    SANGUINE

    CHOLERIC

    MELANCHOLY

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  • TAILORED QUOTES

    *Before I formed you in the womb I knew [and] approved of you [as My chosen instrument], and before you were born I separated and set you apart, consecrating you; [and] I appointed you as a prophet to the nations -The Lord God to Jeremiah-

    *Hide not your talents. They for use were made. What's a sundial in the shade? -Benjamin Franklin-

    *All the inhabitants of the earth are reputed as nothing; He [God] does according to His will in the army of heaven and among the inhabitants of the earth. No one can restrain His hand or say to Him, “What have You done?” -King Nebuchadnezzar-

    *One of the things the children of God need most is to have their faith strengthened. -George Muller-

    *You CANNOT be anything you want to be - but you CAN be a lot more of who you already are. -Tom Rath-

    *Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it. -The Lord God to Habakkuk-

    *And He [God] Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers... -Paul the Apostle-

    *Everyone has it within his power to say, this I am today; that I will be tomorrow. -Louis L'Amour-

  • THE WORK AND THE LIFE

    -Many have excused themselves from rendering their gifts to the service of Christ because others were possessed of superior endowments and advantages. The opinion has prevailed that only those who are especially talented are required to consecrate their abilities to the service of God. It has come to be understood by many that talents are given to only a certain favored class to the exclusion of others who of course are not called upon to share in the toils or the rewards. But it is not so represented in the parable. When the master of the house called his servants, he gave to every man his work.

    -We need not go to heathen lands, or even leave the narrow circle of the home, if it is there that our duty lies, in order to work for Christ. We can do this in the home circle, in the church, among those with whom we associate, and with whom we do business.

    -You are not to wait for great occasions or to expect extraordinary abilities before you go to work for God. You need not have a thought of what the world will think of you. If your daily life is a testimony to the purity and sincerity of your faith, and others are convinced that you desire to benefit them, your efforts will not be wholly lost.

    -The humblest and poorest of the disciples of Jesus can be a blessing to others. They may not realize that they are doing any special good, but by their unconscious influence they may start waves of blessing that will widen and deepen, and the blessed results they may never know until the day of final reward. They do not feel or know that they are doing anything great. They are not required to weary themselves with anxiety about success. They have only to go forward quietly, doing faithfully the work that God's providence assigns, and their life will not be in vain. Their own souls will be growing more and more into the likeness of Christ; they are workers together with God in this life and are thus fitting for the higher work and the unshadowed joy of the life to come.

    from the book:
    Steps To Christ
    by Ellen G White